Photo by: Ian Burt
Summer Musings…
I had the chance to shut down for a bit this summer. As the RPMs slow down, some things bubble to the surface. Bear with me as I share a few bubbles.
unintended inheritances.
What are unintended inheritances? They are things we don’t mean to pass on but do. A couple doesn’t mean to fight in front of their kids, but the kids see it and so they copy that behavior. Mom and Dad don’t mean to cause friction between their children, but because of the way their estate planning documents are written, the kids have to ALL agree in order to take a certain action. The result: collateral relational damage…I just finished reading a fascinating book on addiction: In The Realm of Hungry Ghosts, by Gabor Mate, MD. On p.253 he writes.
As a rule,
whatever we don’t deal with
in our lives,
we pass on to our children.
Be careful to avoid unintended inheritances.
Leisure is a beautiful garment
for a day, but a horrible choice
for permanent attire.
Where is the balance?
The sky has never been bluer…
the grass has never been greener…
Good for that friend, but why does it take cancer to get us to recognize that the sky is often blue and the grass is often green?
There is no innocent “yes.”
We all need to consider boundaries. I said to this friend,
If you set boundaries
you will piss people off.
If you don’t, you will get pissed off.
I don’t know if you take time to “muse,” but let me encourage you to. You might be surprised what bubbles up to the surface. Enjoy the rest of your summer!